Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Thoughts on my Safety

Last weekend, Shannon and I went to a pre-marriage retreat. It was not the most fun I have ever had, but here is something funny that came out of it.

While doing an activity to access the amount of genuineness in our relationship, I was asked to respond the following statement with a "Yes", "No", or "?":
My partner makes me feel safer with him/her than with any other person.
My first thought was about my physical safety, so my response was "No"...I feel equally safe with almost all people. Later that day, we were joking about my response and only remembered the beginning of the statement:
My partner makes me feel safer...
Then I thought that my answer should be "Yes". Assume that someone was shooting at me. If Shannon is with me, then there is a small (very small ;) ) chance that a bullet would hit her instead of me.

But that thought was followed by another. If someone is shooting at us, then I am in more danger because I will be putting myself in the line of fire so that I get shot instead of Shannon.

Therefore, I concluded that "my partner does not make me feel safer with her than with any other person" because when I am with her, I am responsible for her safety and my own.

...married life is going to be dangerous :(

1 comment:

  1. Needless to say, I marked a "Yes" to that statement without hesitation. :)

    And you just better not provoke anyone to start shooting at us in the first place. Otherwise, we'll just both have to duck.